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About Jonathan Varkul:
Jonathan is a facilitator and coach who helps leaders and their teams effectively resolve morale, conflict and performance related issues. He has been leading and building teams since 1998 and coaching leaders and their teams since 2010.
His approach as a coach and facilitator is both the result and part of his ongoing journey to answer the question: “Can our deeper selves serve a practical purpose in addressing complex business challenges, and if so, how?”
Website – https://www.jonathanvarkul.com/
LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonathanvarkul/
Episode Transcript
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jonathan_varkul: What was really weird is that the actual team that I ran started to
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jonathan_varkul: actually work more effectively. Not less
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anthony_algmin: Welcome to the data leadership Lessons podcast. I’m your host, Anthony J.
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anthony_algmin: Algmin. Data is everywhere in our businesses, and it takes leadership to
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anthony_algmin: and sending an email at Algmin Business Media. The stage is yours today. On
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anthony_algmin: and sending an email at Algmin Business Media. The stage is yours today. On
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anthony_algmin: data leadership lessons, we welcome Jonathan Varkul, Jonathan is a coach and
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anthony_algmin: facilitator who helps leaders and teams move through next level challenges.
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anthony_algmin: He has been leading and building teams since nineteen ninety eight, and
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anthony_algmin: coaching leaders and their teams since twenty ten. Jonathan. welcome to the
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anthony_algmin: show
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jonathan_varkul: playing Anthony, nice to be here.
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anthony_algmin: so like we do with all our first time guests. Why’t you take a moment and
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anthony_algmin: just tell the audience a little bit about Uh, what you did in your career
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anthony_algmin: before you became a coach and and facilitator and how those experiences led
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anthony_algmin: you to doing what you do now?
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jonathan_varkul: K. great. so you know,
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jonathan_varkul: Did leading up to this involved a lot of work with data. Funnyly enough,
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jonathan_varkul: not in a typical sense. I mean my first five years out of university. I was
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jonathan_varkul: a C. P. A and I worked with Eston, young as an accountant and an auditor.
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jonathan_varkul: Lots of data. not to work there. Fairly basic. Um realized it wasn’t the
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jonathan_varkul: thing I wanted to do, and I did what a lot of Um. Cp. asier do as you
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jonathan_varkul: qualify, and then you ▁quit to go in and figure out what the next thing is
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jonathan_varkul: you want to do, And Um. I got involved with Um. technology. At that time I
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jonathan_varkul: implementing e r P. Enterprise Requirement planning systems, Um,
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jonathan_varkul: Pre two thousand, So this was when the Y two K business was really hot and
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jonathan_varkul: everyone was Uh, scared that their systems were going to crash and wanted
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jonathan_varkul: to replace all the desperate systems and put in integrated Um systems with
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jonathan_varkul: a centralized database. And Um. My role was to kind of go in and help make
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jonathan_varkul: that happen. Um. fun enough. Obviously, um, I seem to be quite successful
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jonathan_varkul: at it, but Um, what I realized in hindsight was it was something other than
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jonathan_varkul: the technical capabilities that allowed me to be successful. Um did that
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jonathan_varkul: for a while, and Um, and then after that got involved in um, a start up
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jonathan_varkul: that was in the automotive sector in the wholesale, Um, part of automotive,
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jonathan_varkul: Um, in the used car section of wholesale, So this is basically that the
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jonathan_varkul: wholesale market for used vehicles is about three times a size of a new
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jonathan_varkul: vehicle.
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jonathan_varkul: The new vehicle industry only because I guess I used car Clls three times
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jonathan_varkul: once. It’s once it, Um, not no longer new so
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jonathan_varkul: to to a pretty large industry, and typically what used to happen is in that
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jonathan_varkul: in that industry inventory was sourced and sold through physical auctions
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jonathan_varkul: where dealers would have to go and buy their cars at physical auctions.
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jonathan_varkul: Captive finance companies would have to um. send the Th. their vehicles to
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jonathan_varkul: these physical auctions, and people had to congregate around physical
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jonathan_varkul: auctions to go by and sell inventory. So we were one of those companies
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jonathan_varkul: that brought that whole system on line across North America, And and it was
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jonathan_varkul: a fascinating journey because we were taking something that was incredibly
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jonathan_varkul: desperate. Lots of different perspectives on whether it was going to work
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jonathan_varkul: or not, and lots of resistance in the marketplace, because people had made
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jonathan_varkul: lots of money from actually not having a transparent industry, and Um got
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jonathan_varkul: involved in in in building that out, and in two thousand and about seven we
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jonathan_varkul: merged with our largest competitor, and I found myself sitting as a vice
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jonathan_varkul: president of operations in this organization and realizing that that’s not
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jonathan_varkul: really what I wanted to be doing, and so I am, gave some thought to what is
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jonathan_varkul: it that I wanted to do and. I realized that
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jonathan_varkul: up until then everything that I had done really involved people, and it
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jonathan_varkul: wasn’t really the technicalities of the work that that had led to my
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jonathan_varkul: success, but in much
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jonathan_varkul: but mo more about their relationship with their work that I was able to
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jonathan_varkul: help them with, and in a sense, Um offered them some clarity around
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jonathan_varkul: something that they were struggling with, and in that Um allowed us to
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jonathan_varkul: figure out next steps towards big challenges that we were having, Um, no
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jonathan_varkul: matter what it was.
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jonathan_varkul: So that’s what kind of led me into this journey of Um
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jonathan_varkul: of coaching Funnily enough, Um,
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jonathan_varkul: along the way through the accounting to the technology to the automotive.
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jonathan_varkul: Um. One of the interesting things is that I struggled a lot with, I would
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jonathan_varkul: say anxiety type issues that manifested themselves as Um. First, the an
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jonathan_varkul: inner year disorder so would have a tremendous amount of verdigo,
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jonathan_varkul: and was told that there wasn’t any anything that I could do about that, But
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jonathan_varkul: attacks of verdigo were were quite intense and they gave me a whole
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jonathan_varkul: different perspective on how to be in the world when I’m having a
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jonathan_varkul: verdigical attack, because there would last up to two days
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jonathan_varkul: and two days of verdigo is like basically a feeling of just that spinning
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jonathan_varkul: kind of falling feeling that you have non stop,
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jonathan_varkul: so total constant nausea for for a couple of days and. What what had to do
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jonathan_varkul: was find a way to put myself in a position where I wasn’t um, spinning or
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jonathan_varkul: falling and it brought my attention to my body in a way I’d never
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jonathan_varkul: brought my attention to my body before, So there was my like first kind of
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jonathan_varkul: foray into becoming almost biologically aware of myself in the context of
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jonathan_varkul: everything that I was doing, because I had to be so acutely aware of the
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jonathan_varkul: sensations of my body where my head was tolted, how i was how how i was
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jonathan_varkul: being relative to everything else that was. Going on,
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jonathan_varkul: Um,
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jonathan_varkul: subsequent to that years later, I ended up having these huge panic attacks
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jonathan_varkul: that had end up in in the emergency ward, and while, as in the emergency
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jonathan_varkul: ward every time I’d keep thinking I was having a heart attack And so I had
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jonathan_varkul: a work up of I can’t tell you how many different um,
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jonathan_varkul: um, uh, tests and um
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jonathan_varkul: scans done just to ascertain that there was absolutely nothing wrong with
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jonathan_varkul: me and after about a year and a half of this, my family physician said to
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jonathan_varkul: me, Look, I, you know I can, maybe. Give you something for the anxiety, but
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jonathan_varkul: there’s really nothing else we can do for you. You’re in perfectly good
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jonathan_varkul: But what that really made me, Um wonder, was, was there something that I
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jonathan_varkul: could do And I did did a little bit of research and I ended up going to
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jonathan_varkul: And you know I didn’t know anything about this, um, t, c, M, as they call
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jonathan_varkul: it, And when I went in, the first thing that he did was he checked my
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jonathan_varkul: pulse. He pushes down on your pulse on your wrist and he asked me to stick
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jonathan_varkul: my tongue out and he looked at it and he sat there and he looks at me and
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jonathan_varkul: hesistsed me. You have virtually no yin in your body and I looked at him
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jonathan_varkul: and I said Okay. So
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jonathan_varkul: big deal. like big whoop. What’s what’s that all about? And he said Me,
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jonathan_varkul: Know you. What you don’t understand is that there arere two types of
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jonathan_varkul: energies that work together to make a healthy individual. One of them says
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jonathan_varkul: Yin energy, and one of them says Y energy, And you have virtually no Y in
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jonathan_varkul: your body, And I said to him, Okay, so um, how’s that a problem? he said to
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jonathan_varkul: me. Well, you’re a little bit like picture, the sun burning out like
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jonathan_varkul: there’s no substance to it at the centre. All you see is a faint bit of
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jonathan_varkul: fire around the outside, but nothing to the center. He said, so, for
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jonathan_varkul: example, when I push down on your pulse, I get nothing back. There’s no
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jonathan_varkul: substance to youcause. Yin is the energy of substance, and yank’s this kind
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jonathan_varkul: of fiery burn off type of energy that you’re that you’re operating on And
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jonathan_varkul: so your system is very much out of whack. You’re not actually in tune with
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jonathan_varkul: anything
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jonathan_varkul: and you’re burning out really quickly. So I said him, Well that that that
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jonathan_varkul: sounds about right. Let’s kind of fix a situation. Um, and he said to me.
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jonathan_varkul: Well, the first thing you have to understand that is if you don’t do
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jonathan_varkul: anything about it, Um,
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jonathan_varkul: you will you will. Um,
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jonathan_varkul: you’ll really kind of start to keep having these anxiety attacks for a
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jonathan_varkul: while, but after a while, may, ten years from now, five years from now, I
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jonathan_varkul: don’t know. You’ll start to show signs of some kind of degenerative
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jonathan_varkul: disease, and the truth is if someone takes a blood test, there’s go to be
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jonathan_varkul: nothing that’s going to show this up in in any way. But what’ll start
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jonathan_varkul: happen is and I don’t know. He says to me if it’s going to be Parkinson’s
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jonathan_varkul: if it’s go to be something else, But you’ll start to have some kind of um
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jonathan_varkul: issue that’s going to show up of being very like you’re degenerating,
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jonathan_varkul: You’re literally falling apart. in some way neurology quickickly. So he got
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jonathan_varkul: me really scared, and I said to Myca. You got my attention. What do I need
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jonathan_varkul: to do? And he said me, Well, there’s a couple of things. First of all, we
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jonathan_varkul: have to make sure that your diet is very yin based. In other words, there’s
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jonathan_varkul: certain types of food that contain the energy of the substantian, um, um
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jonathan_varkul: energy. And then you have to remove stimulation from your life. that that
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jonathan_varkul: is overproducing the yang, And then the other thing is you have to start to
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jonathan_varkul: change the way youre relating in the world. I said. What do you mean? He
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jonathan_varkul: said. Well,
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jonathan_varkul: the way you relate in the world currently is very predominantly Y. You like
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jonathan_varkul: jump to attention really quick. You’re highly reactive when someone one
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jonathan_varkul: will bring your problem and you’re You’re addressing it. You quick to try
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jonathan_varkul: and address it and get it over as quick as possible. You try and march
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jonathan_varkul: through your to Duulus, ready quickly. You’re quick to jump to solutions,
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jonathan_varkul: and so that’s a very young oriented way of relating what happens if you
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jonathan_varkul: change the way you’re relating and you softened more into your experience,
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jonathan_varkul: and took your time with things and allowed things to almost emerge out of
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jonathan_varkul: what’s there, rather than trying to kind of quickly react and and do
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jonathan_varkul: things. So I thought well, this is really cool. Let me try and do that And
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jonathan_varkul: so I was running an operation that was insane. It. It was no wonder was
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jonathan_varkul: giving me anxiety. It was insane, Um, it. There were lots of moving parts
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jonathan_varkul: and lots of craziness. People were panicked a lot of the time, and we were
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jonathan_varkul: doing things for the first time many times,
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jonathan_varkul: and Um and I was having to kind of lead a group of about. I don’t know
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jonathan_varkul: sixty or seventy people in this kind of environment, and so what I desire
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jonathan_varkul: to do, and I guess the only reason I decided to do it was because
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jonathan_varkul: I guess
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jonathan_varkul: the idea of not dealing with my issue, the fear of getting some kind of
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jonathan_varkul: degenerative disease, The fear of like these panic attacks keep coming up,
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jonathan_varkul: and I really felt like I needed to do something about it, and so I started
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jonathan_varkul: to kind of almost tune more into my body and slow down, and literally in
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jonathan_varkul: the face of all this fear of oh. My God, I got get that done really
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jonathan_varkul: quickly, or I know I have to give the answer quickly. I really just allowed
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jonathan_varkul: things to start to happen more organically.
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anthony_algmin: H.
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jonathan_varkul: What was really weird is that the actual team that I ran started to
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jonathan_varkul: actually work more effectively. Not less
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jonathan_varkul: people started to find their own solutions. I didn’t have to tell him
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jonathan_varkul: everything. I didn’t have to the burden of having to figure things out and
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jonathan_varkul: quickly do things kind ofpated and I was able to allow things to emerge
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jonathan_varkul: more naturally, so that start to put me on this path of
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jonathan_varkul: being able to approach issues and challenges from a a different kind of
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anthony_algmin: that’s That’s an amazing story and I and I was just thinking it, and I
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anthony_algmin: couldn’t interrupt you because I wanted to hear more of the story, but I’m
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anthony_algmin: like man. I have bet so many people in the audience, Uh, for this show are
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anthony_algmin: entered that with some stepticism but also heard what. Uh, you know, the
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anthony_algmin: that you know it resonated with you and made sense. And that’s it’s actually
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anthony_algmin: with like data leadership lessons like it’s about coming into it with an
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anthony_algmin: open mind and learning and and trying to understand things in in ways that
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anthony_algmin: we don’t already understand. And so I can certainly think about times in my
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anthony_algmin: and it’s a difficult situation to manage, and its
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anthony_algmin: a a harmful one to the individuals in it. And so to hear that you had that
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jonathan_varkul: Sure, so I think it’s It’s a weird one. because once you start to get a
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jonathan_varkul: keep getting more and more of it. So it’s almost like I was going in one
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jonathan_varkul: and get on to the next thing. And that’s kind of wasise the trajectory.
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jonathan_varkul: Um, I sorry to enjoy it more. So that was the first thing and I start to
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jonathan_varkul: which would have been the first kind of metric I’d measure. Is well, that
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jonathan_varkul: was nice, Jonathan That you explored that, But boy, we didn’t get anything
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anthony_algmin: C? And so it continued to build, but at some point it went from you doing
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anthony_algmin: professionally entirely? Can you tell us about that journey? And and how did
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jonathan_varkul: we merged with our largest competitor, and and once that happened, Um, the
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jonathan_varkul: And I really felt like I needed a change, but I didn’t know what to do Now.
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jonathan_varkul: them were people that they knew, And slowly people would refer me to
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jonathan_varkul: unpack it. And I was just in this experimental phase of seeing
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jonathan_varkul: eleven years now, Um, man, I’m a very different person doing it now than I
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jonathan_varkul: this. And how cool would it be if I could do it? I just didn’t realize at
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jonathan_varkul: first how difficult it would be to get people to actually to say. Actually,
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jonathan_varkul: I did, Um in a way, and when I learnt after a little bit of time people
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jonathan_varkul: said Oh well, this thing you’re doing is really coaching. Um, it’s not like
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jonathan_varkul: certified as a coach. I was kind of a. I came in it from a very different
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anthony_algmin: I can certainly appreciate that. and and I think a lot about
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anthony_algmin: it is a very personal thing, And I find that some of the best businesses
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anthony_algmin: that are ever created come from a place where you’re not even worried about
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anthony_algmin: a business. You’re not thinking from a How do I make a business? You’ just
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anthony_algmin: thinking about how can I do something valuable for people and then seeing
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anthony_algmin: where that goes. And so
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anthony_algmin: I, I hear your story and it’s inspiring because I think there’s a lot of
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anthony_algmin: people out there that have a passion that they may not be pursuing because
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anthony_algmin: they can’t figure out how to create a business around it. And and to some
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anthony_algmin: extent I feel like that may be the wrong way to think about it up front is
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anthony_algmin: is first find a way to do it. find a way to help people find. In your case,
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anthony_algmin: how do you coach and how do you do something that you had this innate talent
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anthony_algmin: for and that you saw manifest in different places that you’d been in your
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anthony_algmin: career? How do you do more of that? That’s the thing that starts to make you
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anthony_algmin: happy, and then you can find a way over time to learn the things that you
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anthony_algmin: need to to turn it into a viable business, But I’m sure that there’s a lot
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anthony_algmin: of people out there that don’t necessarily even want to go ▁quit the day
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anthony_algmin: some. There’s something to be said for that as well.
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jonathan_varkul: hundred percent absolutely. And so what you? really? it seems like what you
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jonathan_varkul: you doing, you’ trying to do a little more, or you expanding more of
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jonathan_varkul: what you’ve been at some point in time? And that doesn’t mean you have to
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anthony_algmin: Yeah, and and I think so, I wanted to start with that because to me that’s
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anthony_algmin: your term? But the the next level is really understanding, like there’s
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anthony_algmin: not to make more money, not to further my career necessarily, but to
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anthony_algmin: complete myself as a person or to become a little bit better of a person, or
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anthony_algmin: more, uh, complete person, um than than I am right now. I think that’s a a
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anthony_algmin: great motivator and so I think that Like so, I just wanted to be very clear
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anthony_algmin: that I think is the most important thing. However, I also want to talk about
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anthony_algmin: how you go from being in corporate America, You know, senior operational v P
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anthony_algmin: all in on myself as an entrepreneur And you do put yourself into a position
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anthony_algmin: of how you found that, and how quickly you were able to to identify it and
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jonathan_varkul: weird thing is is what starts us on the road to where going isn’t
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jonathan_varkul: necesarily, the truth of anything. but it’s the tasty treat. that kind of
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jonathan_varkul: gets you started in that direction. and for me this,
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jonathan_varkul: there must be more. so was in my like early forties, I just maybe turned
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jonathan_varkul: forty or forty one At the time
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jonathan_varkul: I
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jonathan_varkul: remember thinking the rest of my life.
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jonathan_varkul: I remember feeling like I’m not standing on the top of the mountain at
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jonathan_varkul: forty. I feel like I’m on the top of a hill. I climbed this high. I’m
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jonathan_varkul: looking out and I could see the next forty years kind of like in front of
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jonathan_varkul: me. And well, if the next forty years end up being like this and I end up
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jonathan_varkul: feeling like the way I feel right now, Thatll be a problem because inasmuch
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jonathan_varkul: as it looks like I’ve achieved, I don’t feel like I’ve achieved anything.
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jonathan_varkul: The way I’m feeling doesn’t feel really good at all, Like there was
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jonathan_varkul: something about the way I felt that was driving me to kind of look for
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jonathan_varkul: something more and I don’t know what it is.
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jonathan_varkul: Um, and that was a real interesting starting point for me because it meant
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jonathan_varkul: this isn’t about finding a career or a job or a business, as much as its
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jonathan_varkul: more, finding myself in some ways and a deeper deeper level. And so there
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jonathan_varkul: was a bit of a Am an eye opener because all of a sudden everything was fair
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jonathan_varkul: game. in a sense Because
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jonathan_varkul: I, I started to find myself questioning everything. I. why, like literally
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jonathan_varkul: everything that I had almost built up, Am as a structure around my life. I
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jonathan_varkul: kind of start to dismantle a little bit because I needed to get to what was
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jonathan_varkul: underneath it. What’s the foundation to myself? If the foundation at the
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jonathan_varkul: bottom is is kind of giving off this reverberation of. I don’t feel really
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jonathan_varkul: good about this thing. Will Em me start to take things apart and see if I
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jonathan_varkul: take one piece out what’s happened while it’s still there. Let me take
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jonathan_varkul: another piece out while it’s still there. And so as um, I started to look
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jonathan_varkul: at my life and explore a little bit more. Um, First of all, I ended up with
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jonathan_varkul: no job for starters, because I didn’t want to work here, so I found myself
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jonathan_varkul: unemployed and as I started to explore this further, my marriage fell
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jonathan_varkul: apart, so I found myself without. um. Oh a wife, and we have two wonderful
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jonathan_varkul: boys, but at the end of the day our, our, our marriage fell apart. Um, I
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jonathan_varkul: found myself no longer owning this wonderful home that we we owned. I was
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jonathan_varkul: kind of by myself in this little rental place, sitting there, not having a
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jonathan_varkul: career. not really knowing what I wanted to do. It was almost like this,
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jonathan_varkul: tracking backwards into facing all my deepest fears, which was what had led
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jonathan_varkul: me to kind of travel outwards in the first place was his fear of failure.
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jonathan_varkul: And now I’m kind of facing failure at every s ingle step of the way, almost
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jonathan_varkul: back into really feeling it for the first time. And
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jonathan_varkul: so so the first starting point was while I need to kind of get
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jonathan_varkul: fulfilled or happy or find my way. But what it actually led me into was
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jonathan_varkul: this journey into a bit of a hellish um space for a while
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jonathan_varkul: or place for a while, which was facing all my demons and fears around.
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jonathan_varkul: What it is that I am
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jonathan_varkul: around
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jonathan_varkul: around my relationship with myself in the world. Now what was fascinating
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jonathan_varkul: is because I hadd all this time to do it. I got to sit on a couch for a
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jonathan_varkul: fair amount of time and actually experience what that was like because it’s
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jonathan_varkul: not an intellectual experience. I’m in sure, intellectually people can
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jonathan_varkul: think about you know it, lose your wife. you lose your, your, um, your your
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jonathan_varkul: house, you lose a job. You lose all these things, but the truth is is all
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jonathan_varkul: this experience of it actually, that’s happening, and then all the
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jonathan_varkul: narratives that I’m telling myself while this is all happening and I’m and
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jonathan_varkul: I’ve got nowhere else to be, so I can kind of watch this whole thing play
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jonathan_varkul: itself out and start to put the pieces of my how I relate in the world
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jonathan_varkul: together, and I start to be able to see that how my emotions are connected
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jonathan_varkul: to my thoughts, that’s connected to the sensations in my body and how all
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jonathan_varkul: the stuff fits together. And then what happened was I start to engage with
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jonathan_varkul: other people around in this coaching area and they start to describe things
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jonathan_varkul: to me, And while they describing it to me, I’m still very much embedded in
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jonathan_varkul: this connecting to myself physically. And so I’m starting to kind of almost
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jonathan_varkul: physically play with the information they’re giving me, relate to them and
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jonathan_varkul: explore in a very different kind of way Because it’s not like they’re
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jonathan_varkul: giving me an intellectual problem and I’m trying to help them solve it.
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jonathan_varkul: They’re giving an intellectual problem and I’m grappling to be here right
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jonathan_varkul: now just as a person, so I’m trying to integrate grappling to be here while
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jonathan_varkul: meeting Um them with what they’re going through And it was incredibly
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jonathan_varkul: informative in a way that you can’t quite describe to people, because my,
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jonathan_varkul: my brain, if I look back on it was trying to synthesize so much information
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jonathan_varkul: and integrated all into Um,
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jonathan_varkul: to relating in a different kind of way, and Ive found that Um, an
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jonathan_varkul: incredibly imst tortuous process, but it gave me insights and perspectives
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jonathan_varkul: on my condition. Under the general human condition, but certainly my
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jonathan_varkul: condition, and it led me to start to see if that was applicable to all
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jonathan_varkul: these other people that were bringing me all their issues, and I start to
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jonathan_varkul: see commonalities and all of a sudden a body of work started to emerge in
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jonathan_varkul: the context of. While I can see the patterns to when people are up against
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jonathan_varkul: it and are being challenged, it’s the same stuff people were just scared to
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jonathan_varkul: face ourselves in the context of a challenge or next level up challenges.
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jonathan_varkul: What they bring up is this huge fear of
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jonathan_varkul: I’m not going to be good enough to to do that. I’m going to have to really
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jonathan_varkul: push harder or I. It’s almost like this, this orientation to, to, um,
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jonathan_varkul: to, to get away from ourselves in order to achieve something. and then when
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jonathan_varkul: we achieve it we can then go. I can now can bring that in and I can add it
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jonathan_varkul: to my badges of honor in a way that could kind of make me feel better or
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jonathan_varkul: good about things.
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jonathan_varkul: but being able to go into a challenge. That’s really when we’re up against
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jonathan_varkul: it and expand our thinking in a way where we’re settling into the
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jonathan_varkul: experience to see what else is here to kind of in a more holistic complete
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jonathan_varkul: way address a biggest problem. At a strategic level, there was something
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jonathan_varkul: people really struggled with and I start to become more adept at helping
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jonathan_varkul: them do that. Just because by virtue, the fact that I’d gone through this
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jonathan_varkul: huge struggle,
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anthony_algmin: Yeah,
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anthony_algmin: and so I think this. This brings us to kind of what had originally brought
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anthony_algmin: us together to do this show, which was the
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anthony_algmin: You have a a significant amount of data experience in what you do, and you
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anthony_algmin: look at how data plays a role in in what people are doing. Can you talk
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anthony_algmin: about some of the things that tie data into the work that you do as a coach
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jonathan_varkul: so so everyone comes to me with a problem framed up in a particular kind of
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jonathan_varkul: way.
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jonathan_varkul: That doesn’t matter what it is. it may makes no difference.
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jonathan_varkul: And And and that problem is framed up with data. The thing is, is, most of
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jonathan_varkul: what people don’t realize is that there are two pieces to the information
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jonathan_varkul: that they’re giving me. There’s you’d call it the raar data that they’re
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jonathan_varkul: giving me, But there’s also what I’d call this a whole lot of charge or or
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jonathan_varkul: biological charge information That’s coming with that. And when you mix
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jonathan_varkul: that biological charge information along with the raw data, you create a
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jonathan_varkul: fair amount of noise and it’s hard to passe out what’s actually relevant
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jonathan_varkul: and what’s not, And so most of the work I do is in
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jonathan_varkul: is in being with the information that they’re giving me to pass out the
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jonathan_varkul: charge from the relevant data in that particular situation so that people
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jonathan_varkul: can actually find the truth of the situation. Because when we’ um, when
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jonathan_varkul: we’re supercharged by something, or or strugg, struggling with it, our our
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jonathan_varkul: systems are going to be um.
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jonathan_varkul: Are going to be Um, operating in a way that? Um.
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jonathan_varkul: it denies reality.
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jonathan_varkul: So what happens is is when people are up against it with the challenge. The
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jonathan_varkul: way they are viewing things is very narrow and so all the things that are
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jonathan_varkul: actually relevant can’t be seen, because the emotional charge that they’re
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jonathan_varkul: experiencing is kind of forcing them to look at something in a very narrow
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jonathan_varkul: fashion. And so the the work I do is really engaging with people to examine
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jonathan_varkul: the information that’s there in a way that makes it tolerable for them to
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jonathan_varkul: view things beyond where they’re at. Um.
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jonathan_varkul: So
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jonathan_varkul: so it could be as simple as um. someone having an issue around delegating.
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jonathan_varkul: I mean it’s not like they haven’t been told twenty times they should
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jonathan_varkul: delegate. It’s not like they. Um. they don’t know they should delegate. Um,
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jonathan_varkul: but there’s something that is stopping them from doing it. Chances ared
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jonathan_varkul: they’ve scared to, but that’s not something that that comes up and and and
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jonathan_varkul: even if they’re scared to, what does that mean for them in terms of Um,
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jonathan_varkul: learning how to or what to do? And so
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jonathan_varkul: the when we tell people how to do something when they’re not capable of
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jonathan_varkul: doing it? In that moment the information just lost on them, and so the the
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jonathan_varkul: work is in coming to a relationship with data where they can actually see
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jonathan_varkul: it, because most of the time they’re not able to, and so a lot of the time.
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jonathan_varkul: I, I find Um
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jonathan_varkul: in conversations with people. they often come to a moment where they go.
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jonathan_varkul: Huh, people have been telling me this for years. Have you just gotten it
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jonathan_varkul: Now? It’s because finally they’re actually getting the data Because before
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jonathan_varkul: the information was very noisy and they couldn’t see it. So that’s really
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jonathan_varkul: the. The The essence of of what I do is help them see something that
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jonathan_varkul: they’re just. they’re just not able to see, given the relationship that
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jonathan_varkul: they have with the issue itself
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anthony_algmin: There’s a lot to unpack with that because
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anthony_algmin: people are inherently subjective, they are inherently emotional and nothing
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anthony_algmin: is more important to any individual but themselves right. like they. They
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anthony_algmin: are very tied to everything that is going on for them. Because that’s them
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anthony_algmin: right. And so it becomes very difficult to, without help get an objective
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anthony_algmin: perspective on it all. Um, and and really understand
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anthony_algmin: beyond the emotion beyond how it feels at that time, and
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anthony_algmin: realize in in in a greater context what what it is. And and I. I. I had this
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anthony_algmin: realization not too long ago where I’m like. there are years of my life
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anthony_algmin: where if you said what happened when you were thirty three, I would struggle
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anthony_algmin: to tell you what happened when I was thirty three years old. Now I could
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anthony_algmin: tell you with great details. some things. if I knew that that happened when
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anthony_algmin: I was thirty three years old. I could probably give you a bunch of of those
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anthony_algmin: details. But what? I? what? Why? That meant so much to me In understanding.
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anthony_algmin: This is like what can feel so big and so stressful in a given moment. You
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anthony_algmin: may forget an entire year of context without a you know bread
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anthony_algmin: crumbs to get you back into that moment, so relax and recognize that that
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anthony_algmin: story happens over a much larger period than how you are feeling today.
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anthony_algmin: Though
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anthony_algmin: that said, with
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anthony_algmin: the day to day grind, in some cases, can feel overwhelming. If you look at
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anthony_algmin: the progress that you make even over a month or two, you can make incredible
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anthony_algmin: strides even though every day feels kinda like it felt yesterday. And so
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anthony_algmin: that’s also a fascinating thing to think about. And I think that you having
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anthony_algmin: someone who can help play back these kinds of ways of thinking and using the
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anthony_algmin: techniques that I’m sure that you have to give people ways of of thinking
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anthony_algmin: about topics that are very familiar to them. It’s not like you’re going to
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anthony_algmin: tell them a new piece of data that they didn’t already have, But what you’re
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anthony_algmin: going to do is you’re going to remove some of the noise that normally is all
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anthony_algmin: that they focus on or much of what they see, and be able to dig into that
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anthony_algmin: next level of
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anthony_algmin: information
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anthony_algmin: underneath it all to to get to whatever they need to doe. And so that’s why
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anthony_algmin: I keep coming back to this next level and trying to understand how that
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anthony_algmin: pertains and even do it on purpose. That time it just kind of came out of my
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anthony_algmin: mouth and I’m like, but that’s that’s it right Like that’s exactly what what
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anthony_algmin: you end up doing to help these folks.
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jonathan_varkul: yeah, it’s um. It’s an interesting process because ▁ultimately. I don’t
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jonathan_varkul: have any answers for them.
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jonathan_varkul: The information’s all there already. that, or at least the the real
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jonathan_varkul: information in terms of the actual data that they need is all all there
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jonathan_varkul: already. and they’re kind of a little in the way, and the challenge
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jonathan_varkul: actually is in a helping them
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jonathan_varkul: find a way to open up to what’s actually here and I. In many cases, it’s
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jonathan_varkul: mostly about
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jonathan_varkul: Um, being able to be
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jonathan_varkul: almost biologically tolerant of the person that I’m with. I’ll explain what
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jonathan_varkul: I mean by that is typically when someone comes to us with a problem and
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jonathan_varkul: they’re concerned about it in some way, and this happens at subtle levels,
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jonathan_varkul: not at gross level, so they don’t have to be fllaing the arms about. They
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jonathan_varkul: just have to say to you know, this is a really big problem. It’s a really
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jonathan_varkul: difficultal thing. All of a sudden, our system starts to almost
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jonathan_varkul: sympathetically join in with theirs At some level. Now it works in the
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jonathan_varkul: reverse, so if I don’t sympathetically join in with them, but I’m really
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jonathan_varkul: with them, but not in the same way that they’re with themselves. What
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jonathan_varkul: happens is they can anchor into my presence with them in a way that then
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jonathan_varkul: makes them feel a lot safer with their issue. So it’s a really challenging
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jonathan_varkul: piece, because I don’t have the answers. I don’t know. it’s going to be
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jonathan_varkul: okay and yet biologically.
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jonathan_varkul: I’m operating in a way as if that is the case, And so then what happens is
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jonathan_varkul: they can
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jonathan_varkul: almost settle in and have someone there who can then intellectually work
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jonathan_varkul: through the issues logically. because that’s my my background. I can
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jonathan_varkul: totally do that, Um, but also be there in an emotionally validating kind of
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jonathan_varkul: way. Um, that allows them to feel really safe to to proceed to unpack
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jonathan_varkul: things and explore things. a people would say. Well, how’s that relevant
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jonathan_varkul: for? for a hard driving executive who’s a type a personality?
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jonathan_varkul: Why why would you need to make something safe for them when they have kind
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jonathan_varkul: of hardr driving? What people don’t realize is
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jonathan_varkul: that the thing that they want more than anything else is behind the door.
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jonathan_varkul: They fear the most at some level, or at the very least it’s where they’re
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jonathan_varkul: up against something, and for them to expand into the next level of where
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jonathan_varkul: they’re looking to go. They need someone one to be able to meet them where
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jonathan_varkul: they’re at fory, as opposed
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jonathan_varkul: to be a yes person or a um, or, or someone who iss going to be compliant or
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jonathan_varkul: someone who’s going to challenge them. But someone who’s just going to be
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jonathan_varkul: with them and really question
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jonathan_varkul: and understand what they’re going through because they’re really there with
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jonathan_varkul: them. Every step of the way is a very, um. It’s a very safe feeling, and
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jonathan_varkul: all of a sudden it gives people Um an opportunity to expand their um, their
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jonathan_varkul: les a little and see the information in a completely different different
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jonathan_varkul: way.
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anthony_algmin: Yeah,
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anthony_algmin: I, I think a lot about psychological safety as kind of one of those key
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anthony_algmin: things in building teams and and managing teams and organizations that’s
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anthony_algmin: really important to to have entertainment’s. One of the most important
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anthony_algmin: things to have as an employee to be productive is is that psychological
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anthony_algmin: safety, that knowledge that you can make a mistake and it can be okay and
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anthony_algmin: the people around you will will support you and and be able to um, you’ll be
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anthony_algmin: resilient with you, and I think too, as as I’ve gotten further in my career
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anthony_algmin: and had higher and higher level positions and and
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anthony_algmin: have colleagues in some, and, and even higher. It’s you realize like there’s
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anthony_algmin: no point on that ladder where somebody has it all figured out, and if they
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anthony_algmin: do, they really don’t. Uh, nobody has it all figured out, and the fears that
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anthony_algmin: you have don’t go away just because you’ve moved up the organizational
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anthony_algmin: hierarchy. Um, it? the stress can often increase because you want to be
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anthony_algmin: there to provide the psychological safety for your teams and the people
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anthony_algmin: underneath you. Sometimes it feels like there’s no one there to provide it
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anthony_algmin: for you, and so I could totally understand how c e o’s would be like I’m the
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anthony_algmin: one everyone relies on. yet I feel like I’m a paper tiger. And even though I
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anthony_algmin: have the big title and I have the big salary, And and but it there that
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anthony_algmin: thear is still that we are still all human. And and even though I think we
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anthony_algmin: have a tendency
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anthony_algmin: to
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anthony_algmin: kind of put people on pedestals as if they are something beyond human.
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anthony_algmin: whether it’s technology executives, I think Steve Jobs is a great example
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anthony_algmin: that he was. He was seen as almost beyond being just I a mortal. But at the
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anthony_algmin: end of the day he was just a person too. You know. And and that’s true of
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anthony_algmin: everyone, and so it’s It’s not unreasonable. I think for
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anthony_algmin: anyone to realize that it’s facing those fears. And and is as part of hu,
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anthony_algmin: part of the human condition right. This is something that we all have to
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anthony_algmin: know and explore. And just because outwardly we may seem to have it all
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anthony_algmin: figured out, I think on the inside, a lot of folks you know struggle with
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anthony_algmin: that and and don’t know what to do. So what I would ask you, because I’m
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anthony_algmin: sure not everyone out there will be able to hire you as a coach or hire a
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anthony_algmin: coach of of any kind. But are techniques Are are things that people can be
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anthony_algmin: doing on their own to start to. You know, at least pull it the thread of
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anthony_algmin: some of the things that we’ve talked about today, and and to start, Um,
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anthony_algmin: you’ll becoming more connected like you talked about earlier on, connected
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anthony_algmin: to yourself and your body, and and and you, your minded in what’s going on
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anthony_algmin: around you. In what you’ve done in your career to find themselves, you know,
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anthony_algmin: on a path to to a better place,
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jonathan_varkul: I say this, The first thing you can do. It’s an interesting practice is to
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jonathan_varkul: I, I’d call it um, becoming a little bit more aware of your own
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jonathan_varkul: system, your own body, and I’ll tell you why, Um, when you’re engaging on a
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jonathan_varkul: day to day basis in any, driving your car or grocery shopping, or just at
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jonathan_varkul: work, doing something, crunching numbers on a spreadsheet, working with a
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jonathan_varkul: team doesn’t really matter, and if you notice during that at some point in
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jonathan_varkul: time there is some agitation or some constriction or some tension in your
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jonathan_varkul: body, actually, even euphorian disassociation, but let’s just leave it as
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jonathan_varkul: agitation. Constriction, intention, If you just notices some agitation,
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jonathan_varkul: some constriction and some tension in your body, it’s pretty much a
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jonathan_varkul: guarantee that at that point in time, if you look around and you see
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jonathan_varkul: there’s no actual physical danger in this moment. In other words, there’s
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jonathan_varkul: no one coming at you with a gun or a knife, there is. there’s no lions or
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jonathan_varkul: tigers trying to run at you Like physical danger. In that moment there
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jonathan_varkul: isn’t any if you look around, and there is ▁zero of that. And and I’m
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jonathan_varkul: talking about, even if someone one is giving you a terminal diagnosis for
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jonathan_varkul: your own biology. that says you’re going to die in thirty days. That still,
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jonathan_varkul: in that moment it’s not a life threatening moment like there’s nothing
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jonathan_varkul: happening to you physically. So if you’re experiencing some form of
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jonathan_varkul: agitation constriction intention, and in this moment your life is not being
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jonathan_varkul: threatened, then at some level you have an erroneous perspective of reality
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jonathan_varkul: like at some level, and the reason is is because agitation, constriction
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jonathan_varkul: and tension are being produced by your sympathetic nervous system in
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jonathan_varkul: response to the idea that something physically is actually Um at you.
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jonathan_varkul: You’re at physical risk. Your life is physiically atrisk, and this can
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jonathan_varkul: happen in gross ways where you feel real constriction, When subtle ways you
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jonathan_varkul: can start to feel your hands a little tense. Um,
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jonathan_varkul: you’re feeling mine a little bit agitated. It doesn’t matter how much
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jonathan_varkul: agitated or how little if there is any. it’s an indication that there’s an
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jonathan_varkul: erroneous perception. So what’s really cool about this is all of a sudden.
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jonathan_varkul: If you can recognize that, the first thing it does is that creates an
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jonathan_varkul: opening to be able to look at what’s here through a different lens, it’s to
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jonathan_varkul: be out. Say well, At some level I have an erroneous perception of reality.
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jonathan_varkul: I don’t know what it is. I don’t know where the error is. I don’t know how
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jonathan_varkul: I’ mis perceiving it, but I am. I can just sit with that and actually relax
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jonathan_varkul: into reality right now, because my misperception is. At some level
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jonathan_varkul: something’s threatening and I have to say something quicker or ruminate on
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jonathan_varkul: the thing I’m ruminating on or respond in a way that’s typical how I always
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jonathan_varkul: respond. But if we don’t, and we just acknowledge that that slight opening
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jonathan_varkul: gives us a chance a little chance to see something we couldn’t have seen
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jonathan_varkul: before, and if we do and we engage with it, what that does is, it opens up
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jonathan_varkul: a path, though we wouldn’t have taken before, and then all of a sudden it
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jonathan_varkul: opens us up to something that we wouldn’t have gone down, And as we start
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jonathan_varkul: to go down, a whole new set of things start to unfold for us, and so that
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jonathan_varkul: starts to then give us confidence that we can play. In a way we never
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jonathan_varkul: played before, but the starting point is to recognize that there’s a
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jonathan_varkul: erroneous perception that’s taking place as a result of being in tune with
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jonathan_varkul: your body. That’s telling you, Hm. You know, we seem to think that when
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jonathan_varkul: we’re tense it’s an indication from our brain to double down on whatever it
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jonathan_varkul: is I’m thinking, and I’ve got a fight harder and work harder when the truth
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jonathan_varkul: is is actually the reverse. It’s a call from the body to say
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jonathan_varkul: wa wa wo actually stop. W. We think it’s actually a signal to say continue.
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jonathan_varkul: So that’s that’s the first thing that people can can start to do is become
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jonathan_varkul: more a little tuned in to incorporate more of their body or their biology
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jonathan_varkul: into the experience of what they are doing, because it has relevant
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jonathan_varkul: information to share with us.
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anthony_algmin: that’s that’s amazing. if I, I have never heard that before and I am going
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anthony_algmin: to start thinking about that myself. and yeah, I, that’s that’s fantastic.
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anthony_algmin: So Jonathan. we are super out of time. I. I’ve really enjoyed this
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anthony_algmin: conversations. A fascinating departure from our normal content on data
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anthony_algmin: leadership lessons. but I hope for all of you out there, it’s been a
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anthony_algmin: worthwhile one. and at least like so many of our our episodes, you knowll
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anthony_algmin: gets you thinking about something in a different way than maybe you thought
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anthony_algmin: about it before. and and I’d like to think that that uh, we were successful
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anthony_algmin: with that in this episode. So Jonathan again, thank you for for being on the
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anthony_algmin: show today,
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jonathan_varkul: Thanks, any thanks foring me.
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anthony_algmin: and you’ll find uh information and and links on how to contact Jonathan in
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